Staying connected through wedding planning

Recently I was having dinner with my dad and he told me a story about a client of his. This man and his wife had gotten into so much stress and conflict during the planning of their wedding day that they actually put the wedding on hold and began seeing a coach. The coaching saved their relationship. If they had had more support at the beginning of plaaning their wedding, the stress and conflict could have been avoided. This is one of the things that Skillful Relationships Coaching is here to do: help couples negotiate the challenges that may arise leading up to the wedding day.

There are many details to be handled, from the kind of cake you are going to have to the font on the invitations. But Skillful Relationships Coaching helps couples to also remember the deeperpurpose of the wedding day: the sacred vows we as couples make to one another on this special day. 

In the stress of planning the wedding, couples often lose connection with themselves individually and each other. Underlying complex issues, know in psychology as dynamics, often rise to the surface. For newer couples, this may be the first time they're really seeing some of this messier stuff that is a part of all relationships.  Skillful Relationships Coaching offers  not only help in dealing with the wedding stress, but at the same time helps couples learn to communicate and work with issues.

We see investing in help with pre-wedding stress as a great opportunity for couples to learn critical skills, Unlike much marrige counseling, which digs into individual histories to formulate some psychological interpertation of the conflict. Skillful Relationships Coaching focuses on the present. We look at and build upon what is working in the relationship, the common purpose and values of the couple.  And when we look at problems, it is always solution-focused. And as the name explicitly says, we provide the practical skills. These are skills that the couple can take with them, skills that will serve them well through-out their lives together.

All of this happens in the very immediate and practical context of applying these skills to real issues that arise leading up to the wedding.  Not only will couples have a less-stressful, more enjoyable time leading up to their wedding, but the process will actually strengthens the couple’s connection, the real intent of this special day.